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After my marriage, everything was fine but I had doubts regarding my husband's love. He was always busy, rarely complimented me, and we hardly ever went out. He wasn't romantic at all, and I felt so distant and disconnected from him. Eventually, I met another man who made me feel special. We met online and it all started with a simple chat and a dinner invitation, but somehow he knew how to make me feel loved and confident. I ended up cheating on my husband with this man and it went on for nine years. My husband had cheated on me too once with his secretary, but he ended it when I found out. Now, I ram realizing my wrongs. I use to think that romance, gifts, and excitement would make me happy, but they didn't. The pursuit of it caused me so much problems, and I regret it deeply. The most painful part is that my two youngest children are not my husband’s, and that never used to bother me before until recently when it began to daunt on me that husband truly loves, even if he didn’t know how show it. I don't know if I should tell him the truth about our children, he adores them. I feel terrible, and he is starting to notice that something is wrong. I am sorry I let my need for romance deceive me and never took the time to understand the true meaning of marriage. I’ve lost sleep over this. The other man now, after selling me dreams is saying that he not ready for marriage, even though he once asked me to leave my home for him. The funny thing is that my husband once told me, I quote, “When you finally have the romance you are looking for, you will understand the true meaning of love and marriage, but it will be too late.” End of quotation. These words are haunting me now. Please help me. I am confused, I want to fix my marriage and find peace. I love my husband and want to stay with him.

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